It’s okay if trauma being part of your aro/aceness is a big part of your identity.
It’s okay if a bad relationship being part of your aro/aceness is a big part of your identity.
It’s okay if your mentall illness being part of your aro/aceness is a big part of your identity.
Don’t let people tell you that “why you’re aro/ace doesn’t mater” if the reason you’re aro/ace is important to you.
You’re allowed to embrace the fact that you are aro/ace for a reason. You’re allowed to voice that you are aro/ace for a reason.
It doesn’t make your voice less important to this community and it doesn’t make you any less valid.