kelpforestdweller:

friends. please.

if you are trying to express that people are treating you, a member of [marginalized group] in a shitty way and it’s unfair and they should stop

and you get the urge to say, “you would never say that to [member of other marginalized group]” or any similar concept

please. don’t. because they do. they do say that. i imagine this applies in many cases but I’m thinking here of those posts that say “people say my anxiety and depression aren’t real illnesses and I should just get over it. they’d never say that to someone with a physical illness!” they do. constantly. and that kind of pressure seriously worsens our lives and sometimes kills us.

you don’t deserve whatever you’re trying to get people to stop doing but maybe don’t? throw other people under the bus when trying to make your point.